When applying joint locks do unto your partner as you would have them do unto you. It is bad form to apply a lock sadistically, and then complain if they hurt you when it is their turn.
Apply joint locks gently and slowly, not suddenly.
No jewellery may be worn. This is mainly for safety's sake, but also there is a Japanese aesthetic that favours simplicity.
Ensure your fingernails are short, as long nails can cause nasty scratches that often get infected.
Losing your temper is unforgivable, and childish.